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Jesus fucking christ.. When I started this site back in 2007 it was bad then as far as guys and relationships went. But now?! It’s 10 fucking times worse than before. Some guys are so beyond help that they ACTUALLY BOUNCE from website to website attempting to find one that validates his fucking insecurities by telling him how to go about getting some lost love back or what to look for if you’re being strung along.

If you’re here there MUST be a reason! And if you’re on Google searching up if you’re being strung along. THEN YOU ALREADY KNOW the answer! Why are you searching man? What the fuck do you hope to gain?! Insight as to WHY your getting fucked over? A one sure fire answer to solve all your problems? Its not going to happen dude!

I don’t get it. I understand women more than my fellow brother. SO MANY men these days want to cry on the shoulder of some chick just to get some fucking attention.

I know guys that don’t even care if they’re getting cheated on as long as they still can get a little piece!!

They’re so afraid of change, so afraid that no other girl is going to want their penis. If this is you IN ANY WAY. Get the fuck off my website and don’t come back. Go read your happy little dating site that always agrees with your screwed up candy land fantasy you seem to have. Where girls that have wronged you deserve 2nd 3rd even 4th chances. Or that it should be ok to act like a bitch to a strong and desirable female. Or go spark up some never-ending debate how women fall for assholes.Or how about you lament and wonder what the hell she’s not returning your phone calls.

Talk yourself into your hole and then bury yourself in it guy. Because the second you try to look for validation for being dicked around, pushed over and just generally disrespected. Or worrying about how to save a relationship with some girl who’s clearly fucking around on you. You’ve lost all respect for yourself and nobody can help a sorry loser who has no desire to win.

The point is.

Failure is imminent emotions are usually complicated and hard to follow.

So never feel bad that she didn’t answer her phone or she never called back, or she won’t return your calls after the first date. Just let it go and move to the next one there’s no reason to spend anymore energy than you fucking have to.

This really only works in a bar environment and I’ve used it to great success.

if you’re ever wondering if a girl is into your conversation. Well that should be obvious but maybe she’s faking it.

If you’re leading the conversation and you want to know if she’s just talking to you or engaging with you. When the woman finishes what she was talking about just move your attention to the TV as if something on it has caught your interest. Its easier when there is a game on. If she creates another conversation topic then she’s engaging you in conversation which is a pretty good Indicator Of Interest (IOI).

SO!

It’s either one of two things.

She’s not interested
She is interested

Is interested I say? Yes. See just because a girl doesn’t answer the phone or call you back doesn’t always mean she’s not interested she may be playing hard to get. Good girls tend to do this. They want to see if you’ll pursue them. regardless the only way to know if you can advance to the next level of head games is to call her again.

DO NOT call more than once. And don’t send any stupid text talking about whatever you feel is on your mind. Get over yourself guy. The only recourse you have is to give the girl one more attempt perhaps maybe 5 days later and leave another voicemail saying get back to me when you get the chance AND THAT’S IT.

Don’t make up shit in your head about how she’s busy blah blah. You’re fucking validating her. If she doesn’t hit you back after 2 voice-mails and 2 missed calls then your DONE. MOVE ON. DO NOT pursue this woman ANYMORE. You ar enot the man you thought you were when you met this girl. And believe me guy so many guys before you who turned stalker on a chick all thought the girl was “Totally into them”.

When a woman gives you her number and its her real number it means two things.

She likes you
She felt bad for you

The second option isn’t the one you want but its a good chance. Some girls have ways around that though these days being a savvy and computer driven world. So they don’t have to feel guilty for feeling bad. If a girl is nice and doesn’t want to shoot you down. MEANING you have no chance to hook up with her she will probably give you.

Her Email
Her Facebook or Myspace
AIM screen name
Her work number
A business card

9 times out of 10 if she felt bad but didn’t exactly want to lie to your face and give you a fake number. You’ll get one of those. I’ve never pursued anything when I received any of those your chances are extremely low.

So as far as I can see it if you got her real number and not a Facebook page or her girlfriends cell phone number because her’s is broke. Its a good chance the reason you have it is because they want to get to know you better.

I don’t know about you. But those are some pretty good odds stacked in your favor for things to go well. But I can’t tell you where things will go. You may just fuck it up on the first conversation. But I guess only YOU can find out.

to test the waters on exactly how interested somebody is in you after you got their number.

Send a text. But make it somewhat rhetorical. Something that doesn’t need a reply but you know you’ll probably get one anyway. Depending on the response or if you actually get a response you’ll know right away if you should dive deeper into the situation. A simple text like.

“hey its me you should probably put this number in your phone so you’ll know who’s texting you at 12 in the am”

Something witty, funny. See if you get a response to a generally rhetorical text. If you get a Lol or any form of that reply you’re probably in the green and should continue to count this one as a prospect. If you don’t get a response try sending on a day later but make it more personal. If you still get no response. Drop her.

After a day or so escalate the situation by sending personal text. If you get responses in a timely fashion meaning not 8 hours from the time you sent the text. Then you should probably begin calling her at the next contact attempt. To much texting leaves out a lot of personal interaction. Hearing somebody’s voice is way more personal than a flirty text.

Fellas, if you get a woman’s number and she writes it down for you along with her full name chances are high that she’s into you. Now the question is when do you call her?

There’s no science and the current science is a few days to a week. A WEEK?! that’s 7 days people. Obviously the reason there are others out there telling you to call in a week is because they want you to show the woman you are in demand and don’t really have the time for her. Which in turn will make her fawn over you.

Negative.

2 days tops fellas. And even on that note you shouldn’t restrict yourself on what days and times you can text or call. If you call her you did it because you wanted to. Same with text. Just don’t be overly needy and don’t call or text every single day. When you do call or text make sure its meaningful meaning don’t call just to chit-chat about your day that’s what friends do with each other.

EDIT: When I say meaningful talk about things you don’t normally talk about or ask other people. Qualifying questions LIKE

What do you like in a guy? – stating your intent
Where do you see yourself in 10 years? – open-ended
Have you ever been to so and so? – open-ended

BE FLIRTY. Be WITTY. Don’t be scared to say the wrong thing you never know where it can lead and its easily taken back with a simple apology. Just don’t be raunchy. Don’t assume too much.

Women love talking about themselves probably more than guys. you can gauge their responses to energetic is positive, monotone is bad. You can tell when somebody is smiling on the phone so if you sense that you’re in the right direction.

END THE CALL. Your conversation may be moving along smoothly and even a little flirty. It DOESN’T MATTER. save some conversation for the next time. To many times guys bear their heart and soul to damn early on the first call that goes 3 hours long. Don’t be that. Always leave them wanting more. Typically a phone conversation shouldn’t be longer than 30 minutes.

Also its a gimme however that you don’t text or call the woman one your way to your car just after getting her number or later that night or anytime that first day. That even to me as a guy sounds strange.

Because people will always wait to form their own opinion about you. Its true! Who do you know that has come to a snap judgment without actually meeting somebody? They may say they did but they didn’t.

The mind is like a sponge. It absorbs it does not withhold. Especially information that means nothing.

What I mean is, sure the haters will fill your little piece up with bad information about you and they will be cautious! But in the end it will be up to that person to make the judgment and let me tell you if they like you or anything in between they will wait to come to their own conclusion.

And once somebody’s mind is made up about something, I’m sure you all know that it has a tendency to stick that way.

Me: So what she say when you asked her about it?

Him: Oh she said that she lives with her ex, she doesn’t want to kick him out because he’s so needy and clingy and she hates him. But its sorta a nice living arrangement because he helps pay the rent.

WHAT THE FUCK?!

Good lord people you want to talk about red flags. Just about everything about what she said every single word is a red flag! Don’t be that guy, if a woman is still with her ex RUN! RUN and don’t look back.

Can I just ask. WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING!!

There’s nothing to talk about. Neglected information is neglected for a reason. Secrets are kept for a reason! And if they were kept from you obviously this person meant to deceive you as to have their cake and eat it to. To supplicate and move on despite the fact that nothing has ACTUALLY CHANGED is to invite yourself to be stepped all over and them some down the road. It’s a very slippery sloop when you take back somebody who wronged you. Because now they feel they can wrong you again and as long as they bat those eye-lashes or flash their smile at you you’ll melt into their arms and just accept then second lubricated ass pounding you just received.

Do yourself a favor, drop the dead weight and move on. You’re worth more than second chances and long talks about nothing.