You know it happens, it happens to the best of us actually. We believe so whole heartedly that the girl we’ve been after for weeks or months even will eventually come around. You’ve tried the open communication and you don’t get any really definitive answer “we’re just friends” so you’re left in the breeze wafting around wondering what the hell is going on! Well my friend you’re getting strung a long. Just a backup in her scheme of things. While you’re important to her you serve mostly as a back up plan or maybe even an ego boost. There’s a lot of reasons why a woman leads a man on, but that’s neither here nor there.. when getting led on the thing is to jump ship. How do you know? Here’s how.
1. She finds you attractive admits it, yet will not escalate with you
She finds you attractive, will kino you and generally be very provocative around you. Why? because she’s sexually attracted to you. And yet for some reason will not let things escalate into sex OR maybe something more serious. The reason this is, because if she has sex with you or turns whatever you two have into a relationship she looses her trump card. She will no longer have her play toy to string a long and she could be subject to losing you and everything you came with. basically if her star pitcher gets injured and she doesn’t have a back up the game is over.
2. Will follow through with certain plans, but not all
A girl that is blatantly blowing you off each and every time has ZERO interest in you. However a girl that follows through with SOME plans. these girls are giving you JUST ENOUGH attention for you to stay interested.
3. Has a boyfriend/Fuck buddy that she doesn’t care about but will not leave for you.
Its simple really. The reasons she has this boyfriend OR a fuck buddy she doesn’t care about is because she’s meeting her sexual need while you are meeting her emotional needs. I would gauge emotional is more important but you may not see it that way. Still she does this because she has all her bases covered but will continue to talk shit on the person she’s banging to you because she’s keeping you interested with the unspoken thought.
“oh well she talks so much shit about him, she’s bound to leave him for me eventually”
Get over yourself buddy, it ain’t happening and if it does, its not because of you.
4. Won’t let you kiss her, but yet will tell you that its ok if it were to happen
Conflicting messages and mixed signals are the norm when it comes to being led on. you don’t know what to think and therefore cannot come to a conclusion. So you drive on hoping that maybe it’ll be some accident of passion.
5. No matter what she says, or does she still refuses to start a relationship with you
Its all good news, everything she tells you leads to only one answer. “this girl is into me!” Well if she was into you, why are you not together? Listen judge a woman by her ACTIONS not her words. Talk is cheap they say and when it comes to love and relationships that phrase is golden! Her ACTIONS will tell you the truth where her words are lying to you.
Its sad to see a man put all his eggs into one basket, and when a man lets himself be led on its because he doesn’t have any other baskets to put his eggs into. The key to avoid being led on is by having other options in your life. If your not seriously dating somebody you should have other women you can actively talk to and enjoy the company with. Without that, its like driving down a one lane road to a destination you have no idea where its leading. Only in disappointment to turn around and drive back down it.
Let me tell you the trip back is more painful that the trip to. So if you being led on DROP THE BITCH and MOVE ON. Only this time talk to more than one female.